"But what I really want to talk about is..." |
Lack of clarity and buy-in might be getting in the way if... |
People in the group:
- Forget what the group's objective is, overall and for specific meetings.
- Have different perceptions of what the problem is, which makes it very difficult to be creative in solving it.
- Say they want a clear agenda but resist when someone tries to facilitate.
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You hear things like:
- "Getting anything done with these people is like trying to herd a bunch of cats."
- "She is just talking to hear herself speak - it is not getting us anywhere."
- "He always hijacks the agenda."
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"We keep going around in circles" |
Your group might be facing communication difficulties if... |
People in the group are:
- Asking leading questions.
- Listening primarily for the purpose of finding holes in each other's arguments.
- People are talking past each other and conversation is going in circles.
- So busy arguing about who is right, they are not learning from each others' different perspectives.
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"I just can't get her to understand."
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"We can't keep going around in circles on this."
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"He keeps talking about numbers that have no bearing on the conversation."
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"I can't get her to admit that she is wrong."
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"They just don't care what I think" |
Strong emotions might be getting in the way of problem solving if... |
People in the group are:
- Finding it difficult to trust each other.
- Consistently overreacting to issues or situations.
- Focusing on assigning blame and defending themselves rather than on problem solving.
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You hear things like:
- "She doesn't care about doing what's best for the community. She is only focused on doing what's best for her."
- "He has no integrity."
- "She keeps attacking me personally."
- "I told him that he was being disrespectful and insensitive, but he just got defensive."
- "I don't think I can work with her unless she admits that she was wrong and apologizes."
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"There is no point in talking about it more, we all know the right answer" |
Your group might be having trouble coming up with new options if... |
People in the group:
- Come to meetings with the answer "all figured out."
- Are not willing to discuss new and different ideas.
- Agree to things because that is how it has always been done.
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You hear things like:
- "It is time to move on, we know what we have to do."
- "We are here to make decisions, not come up with outrageous ideas that will never work."
- "If there was a better way to resolve this, then we would have thought of it already."
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"We talk a lot but I haven't seen much action" |
Your group might be having trouble making and implementing final decisions if... |
People in the group are:
- Not talking about specifics because they think the agreement is too precarious.
- Getting frustrated with each other because even the little details seem to require endless discussion.
- Starting to agree to things they never intend to follow through on - just to end the conversation.
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You hear things like:
- "People don't stay on topic and we waste so much time!"
- "That's not what we agreed to at all!"
- "I agree with a lot of this, but I just can't say yes to it all."
- "I just can't seem to get him to make a firm commitment."
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